Overcoming Shame: Let Go of Others’ Expectations and Embrace God’s Acceptance

READ THIS BOOK if you've been in counseling, been on meds, tried laying down the self-loathing, memorizing Scripture to replace the "lies", choosing joy & positive thinking and you still feel like this battle will be forever and that everyone still sees you as broken. I even went back to counseling just so I could try to remember my childhood - because they tell you can't grow or get over something unless you confront it, bring it out into the open, not just deal with the symptoms but get to the root cause. There was no child abuse, no verbal abuse...so why could I not get well? I've improved immensely, but fighting the depression seems a never-ending battle. This book - WOW - a light bulb moment. I felt hope that I finally found the root of the problem. I now can put a name on it. He tells about a study that explains why we can become shame-prone even though nothing overt/physical/verbal has happened. Truly, this is the best book Dr. Baker has written. SO very helpful and enlightening.

Without over stating it this book changed my life. I have a better relationship with myself, my son and my gf. I wish I had read it years ago. I knew I didnt love myself so was having a hard time thinking anyone else could love me but this book changed that. Not instantly but with time and practice.Thank you to the author!

As another reviewer stated, Dr. Baker helps to understand that shame and guilt are different. I saw him on a Youtube video and liked his teaching style so much I sought out his book. I have always known that shame has negatively influenced my interaction with others. One distinction Baker reveals is that a shame based person has difficulty processing their feelings of guilt because their guilt is compounded by shame. Some people may feel guilt, but not shame and they can function despite their guilt while others are crippled by shame. Applying self help info is difficult but Dr. Baker's insights have helped me. He seems to be very compassionate.

This book was an incredibly easy read in terms of the terminology used. I did not feel stupid or overwhelmed at any point during reading this book because of the language used.I will suggest making sure you have a box of tissues and perhaps a pen and paper to journal as you work through your emotions while reading this book. It is very revealing when you give yourself permission to work through what you are feeling as you read it

There is much to gain in reading this book. It will open your eyes to the shame we all have so you can grow and find healing.

Very good book!

Great book

When I found this book online, I was really interested in the topic and I was looking forward to reading it. I think shame is an issue that many people struggle with and I was especially interested in the perspective of a Christian psychologist. And there were many good points in this books. Dr. Baker always made sure that the reader unterstands want he wants to say and he combined biblical teaching and his knowledge as a psychologist really well. He explains that shame is normal, sometimes good even and everybody experiences it and then gives a sound explanation for problematic shame and how to distinguish if the shame you're experiencing is good or problematic.The only thing that I would criticize is that it was a little repetitive at times, especially in the middle of the book. But then it got better again and he closed the book with a very good chapter on the differences between men and women when it comes to dealing wth shame.I think this book will be really helpful for Christians that are wondering if the shame they deal with is problematic and what they can do about it. It's a great resource and I would recommend it.